Without the bond with the dead, our life is nothing more than an absurd race to emptiness
The pendant of remembrance, in the shape of a heart or cross, consists of two parts. One part is what we will leave to the dearly departed and the other half will remain to us as his or her memory. His or her memory will continue to walk on our legs, to live next to us forever, to metaphorically accompany us throughout our lives.
Remember the dearly departed through a sign, a symbol that becomes his or her historical memory
The symbolic meaning of the pendants of remembrance
The transition of the dearly departed from earthly life to the afterlife is a very delicate and difficult phase to confront. The thought of leaving a trace of us in the coffin of our loved one helps us to imagine his or her path less dark, less fearful and above all helps us continue to have strong ties with him or her.
The memory of the dearly departed means acceptance of pain and loss, being aware of reality, only this process can lead to greater serenity.
The Objects of Memory
To remember means taking it back in heart. In ancient times the heart was the centre a of man’s physical and mental life, it was the soul. Therefore, it corresponded to imprint, engrave, register a face, a voice, a perfume, a sensation, deep in your soul.
The word Symbol derives etymologically from syn-bàllein that is “to put together“, “to unite“, in opposition to “dia-bàllein“, that is “to slander“, “to break up“, “to disunite” (hence the term from the diabolical principle separator, that is “devil“).
In ancient Greece, a piece of wood, stone, clay or a coin broken into several parts was called symbolum so that the parts, united, formed a unity. These parts, kept safe to be shown and united, legitimized a relationship, an agreement, a pact, a right and represented the “memory“.
The ritual comes from afar.
This ritual practice has deep historical roots. The ancient Egyptians, for example, strongly convinced of a life in the afterlife, placed a mortuary mask on the mummies of the bodies of the deceased, that had the purpose of “showing reality”, so that objects or bodies would be recognized once again.
Generally, in some countries of Italy, it is customary to put messages or objects that have been forgotten to be placed in the coffin of the previous deceased. In this way, the last deceased person can bring to the previous one what the family forgot to put in his coffin.
A universal custom concerns coins, in order not to arrive empty handed before the crossing of Charon who would have required a tariff to cross. In the coffin of your dearly departed you can put anything you can think of that can make them and yourselves feel good, obviously starting from the assumption of believing in a life after death.